This or That Questions (2026): 120 Fun Questions for Kids, Friends & Couples

Generate a Set of This or That Questions

The generator draws pairs at random from the list below.

Choose one category to keep the mood consistent, or leave it on all categories for a mixed set. Shuffle gives you a fresh draw, Copy puts the set on your clipboard for a group chat, and Print makes a clean sheet you can hand around the table.

Five to ten pairs is enough to loosen up a table. Use the full list below when you want to play through a long car ride, or when you plan to print a set for a class. Each pair takes a few seconds, so a set of ten fits inside a couple of minutes of conversation if nobody argues the answer, and most people argue the answer.

All 120 This or That Questions

The pairs are grouped by the setting they suit.

Food and drink and Everyday habits work almost anywhere. The kids and families group is written for young children. Couples and A little deeper tend to land better once people know each other a little, although a relaxed group of new friends can handle them too.

How to Play This or That

The game needs no setup and no equipment. One person reads, everyone else answers, and the pace stays quick. These steps cover the standard version.

1. Pick a category that fits the group, or leave the generator on all categories for a mixed set.
2. Read one pair aloud exactly as written, so the choice stays short and clear.
3. Have everyone answer at the same moment, by pointing left or right, or by calling out the pick on a count of three.
4. Allow one sentence of explanation, then move on. A long defence slows the game down.
5. Keep a quiet tally if you like. Noticing who always picks the adventurous side is half the fun.
6. Pass the reader role along every few pairs so everyone gets a turn at asking.

The one rule worth enforcing is that there is no third option. Answers like both or neither end the round before it starts. If someone stalls, ask which one they would pick if they had to decide in two seconds. The instinct they report is usually the honest answer.

Once a group has played a few rounds, try writing your own pairs. A good pair puts two options of similar weight side by side, so that neither is an obvious winner. Pairs about food, weather and weekend plans work as warm-ups, and pairs about priorities such as freedom and security work as the closer. You can also play a guessing round, where one person predicts how the player next to them will answer before they speak. Correct guesses earn a point, and the scores show who knows the group best.

Which Set for Which Group

The right category depends on the room more than on the questions.

A shy group warms up on low-stakes pairs, while a group of old friends will happily skip straight to the deeper ones. Use this table as a starting point and adjust once you see how the first few pairs land.

Mixed-age groups do best with Kids and families plus Food and drink, since every player can answer without background knowledge. When the group includes teenagers, add a few pairs from Entertainment to keep them interested.

This or That vs. Would You Rather

The two games share a skeleton, but they run at different speeds. This table shows where each one fits.

Many groups use both. Start with this or that to warm up, then move to dilemmas once the room is talking.

A Worked Example

Four friends are on a Friday evening drive, and Maya has the generator open on her phone. She selects Travel and places, sets the count to ten, and reads the first pair: beach or mountains. Three friends say beach on the count of three. Jordan says mountains, gets groaned at, and adds that he likes the quiet at the top.

The next pair is window seat or aisle seat, and the car splits two to two. By the fifth pair, people have started predicting each other's answers before Maya finishes reading. A few pairs later the game has turned into a conversation about a trip they all want to take in the spring. Nobody planned that, and the whole thing took about four minutes.

Frequently Asked Questions

What are this or that questions?

This or that questions give a player two short options and ask for one pick, such as sunrise or sunset. There is no setup and no wrong answer, which makes them one of the fastest icebreakers for any group.

How do you play the this or that game?

Read a pair aloud and have everyone choose a side at the same time. Allow one sentence of explanation, then move to the next pair. A set of ten takes only a few minutes.

Are these this or that questions suitable for kids?

Yes. The kids and families group is written for young children, and the food and drink, travel and entertainment groups also work for mixed ages. Skip the group called A little deeper with younger children, since it asks about values and tradeoffs.

What are good funny this or that questions?

Pairs with a playful contrast get the biggest reactions, such as Spoiler or surprise, Dinosaurs or dragons, or Pancakes or waffles. Pick the kids, food and entertainment groups for lighter sets, and ask players to defend their answer in one sentence for extra laughs.

Can adults play this or that at work or on a date?

Yes. The work and school pairs suit a team warm-up, and the couples and deeper groups suit a date night. Keep the pace quick and let people skip any pair they prefer not to answer.

How is this or that different from would you rather?

This or that asks for a quick single preference with no catch. Would you rather presents a full dilemma with a cost on each side, so it takes longer to answer and produces longer conversations.

Keep the Game Going

If the group wants longer discussions after a warm-up, questions to ask your friends make a natural next step. For a first meeting with someone new, first date questions keep the mood light while still telling you something. Partners who want more than a game can try questions to ask your partner or relationship check-in questions.

Your picks say something about what you care about. The core values quiz and the values worksheet turn those instincts into a clearer list, and the love language quiz adds a view of how you like to give and receive care. Couples can carry the conversation into writing with journal prompts for couples.

Solo players can use a pair like Freedom or security as a writing prompt. Try journal prompts for self-discovery or daily journal prompts when you want more, and gratitude journal prompts pair well with a pair like Past or future at the end of a day.

An answer you find yourself explaining for a minute makes a good journal prompt. Life Note is the journaling app we make, and it is a handy place to write those answers down.